How to Avoid Sibling Rivalry with a New Baby
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When I found out I was pregnant with baby #2, I knew that we were going to have to find ways to make sure that our daughter, Peyton, felt included with the new baby. She had been the only child for 2+ years. I knew this would be a big change for her and could cause some unintended sibling rivalry.
We started to refer to our new baby boy by name so that she could get used to the idea that there would soon be a new member of our family. She started to get excited about meeting her little brother.
The other thing I wanted to make sure we did to avoid having any sibling rivalry when Gage needed to have so much attention, as a new baby tends to do. I came up with a list of little tasks she could help me with so that she would feel needed and part of the every day care of Gage.
One of her biggest jobs was getting diapers for Gage. Whenever it was time to change his diaper, it was Peyton’s job to get a new diaper for us. She took this responsibility super serious and would even race to the changing table whenever we said Gage needed his diaper changed. She would get so mad if we changed his diaper without her!
Another task we gave her was to bring in Gage’s bottle and get him a bib and burp cloth. Either my husband or I would make up the bottle and then Peyton was in charge of bringing it to us and getting a bib and burp cloth for us. She loved it!
I’d also let her help me with little chores around the house – she’d fill my k-cup coffee rack, help put away silverware and plastic cups from the dishwasher, help me set the table for dinner and even help me change the laundry. She loves being my little helper and even has a little apron that she likes to wear when she’s doing her chores.
All these things helped to make her feel included as we needed to focus more attention on her new little brother.
What did you do to help your older children adjust to having a new baby and not feel a sibling rivalry?